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When satan is a punk, God shows off!

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This transition time is no joke! We are processing through so many different emotions right now. I woke up this morning overwhelmed with emotions that I was struggling to name.  Mostly, I was feeling empty and like a failure. I know that satan is using this time to try to steal my purpose and passion and also to tell me lies.  That’s who he is… he is a liar and a thief whose only purpose is to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10).  He is such a punk!

Often, when I am empty, I allow satan to put blinders on me to show me all of the ways that I have failed, all of the times that I did not love well, all of the times that I allowed those rough, dark places in my heart to spill out from my mouth (Matthew 15:18).  Even though, I know better because…

GOD!

God is much more powerful than satan.  He is the strength when I am weak (2 Corinthians 12:10), He saved me and delights in me (Psalm 18:19), and He wants to fill me with joy (Psalm 16:11).  The thing is… I have to remember these things!  I have to readjust those blinders so they focus SOLELY ON HIM!

Also…God knows when we need a little push, a little encouragement, and little pep talk to say…”Nope, those lies are not MY truth about you. Allow me to show you”…

and He does because He is God.

THIS is how God encouraged me this morning:

Hermanas en Cristo has been given an amazing opportunity to share our story and sell our jewelry at a group market to support the empowerment of women.  Rosa and I will be attending and staying at a hotel in the Capital tomorrow night. This morning, I went to Rosa’s house to discuss the details of the next few days.

Before I started talking, Rosa said, “I want to tell you something.  Last night, I was laying in bed thinking how you have been an angel and a blessing in my life. The first time that I went to the beach, I went with you.  The first time that I will be staying in a hotel will be with you.  I am going to the university because of you. Most importantly, I have learned so much more about the Bible because of you.  God has used you as a blessing in my life.”

I was speechless.  All I could say was “thank you”!

As we all know, that was not me. That was GOD using ME in HER life…and vice versa!

I say all of this, not to show off, but, hopefully, to show how God can use us in such small ways that we may not see it ourselves.  You may be hearing lies in your own life that are telling you that you are just doing it all wrong.

But God knows better!!!

He created all of us with a purpose!  HIS PURPOSE!

If you are believing that punk satan and struggling to believe God’s truth about you, ask Him to show you!

He will…

Because…

He is so good like that!

 


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Waiting for God’s voice

listeningAs you know, we are studying the book of Esther in Hermanas en Cristo.  We continue to be in amazement and awe of how God used a 14 year old girl for such an important task.  What continues to come up in our weekly study is her character.

We have all agreed that she is patient, obedient, and wise beyond her years. In Chapter 7, THIS was truly her “time such as this” moment. We talked about how it was crucial that her words were perfect. If she said the wrong thing, it could be the death of her. If she spoke the correct words, she would save her Jewish people. We know one thing…

She did not speak before she had prayed about it AND waited for God’s voice.

I asked the women to share any experience they had had in which they prayed before speaking to someone about an important matter, or an experience in which that didn’t pray before speaking to someone. Also, what was the outcome?

One of the women told a story about how she needed to talk to her husband about something important so she prayed about it.  She, then, went to talk to him, and things went horrible wrong.  They ended up in a huge argument.  She was so confused so we went back to God and said “God, I prayed about this before talking to him.  Why did it end like this?”  She laughed and said that she heard God say,

“Yes, you prayed to me but you did not wait for my answer!”

Oh my goodness! What an wonderful example and reminder to us all!

We all need to let Esther be an example to us.  She prays, waits, and LISTENS to God before speaking.  She allowed God to prepare her mind and heart, while He also prepared the path, minds, and hearts of those in His great plan.  When He wants to use us for His purpose, He also wants us to know that it is in HIS strength, knowledge, and wisdom, not ours!

I don’t know about you, but I needed to hear this!


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Turmeric

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This may seem like a random post but I wanted to share the amazing benefits that I have experienced with Turmeric. Living in the Caribbean, we tend to get various little tropical diseases.  Yay, us!  After the outbreak of chikungunya a few years ago, we are all still feeling the aftereffects. The main symptom that I continue to have is joint pain.  Often, my hands and feet just ache.  I am also struggling with jacked up neck and back issues, which have nothing to do with chikungunya.  My neck and back are so bad now that I wake up throughout the night with numbness in my arms, hands, feet, and legs.

During a recent bout with my back, I began researching natural ways to relieve inflammation. Over and over, my research lead me to turmeric.  I actually already had some ground turmeric that I bought while visiting the states, so I thought that I would try it.  Guys…seriously, it worked miracles.

I mixed up a tea recipe that included turmeric, ginger, lemon, and honey. Within 20 minutes of drinking the tea, much of my pain had gone away.  It truly felt like some of the inflammation was being relieved.  I made a large mason jar of the tea so that I could continue to use it to reduce the inflammation.

Normally, when I throw my back out, I am down for almost a week and wake throughout the night in pain.  I drank the tea twice a day for two days. While using turmeric (as opposed to ibuprofen), I was only down for about a day and half, and I slept well throughout the night.  I am definitely sold on the benefits of using this natural remedy. I will continue to use it for the residual joint pain left from chikungunya as well.

Here are some of the benefits of turmeric:

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Have you used turmeric?  If so, what benefits have you experienced? Do you have any recipes to share?

Edit:  I have gotten a few requests to share the tea recipe.  I added coconut oil to mine to help with absorption: Turmeric tea for inflammation


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Brave little Esther

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Man, sometimes during Hermanas en Cristo, the Word just comes so alive that I cannot contain myself.  The ladies laugh at me because I just get so excited!

We are studying the book of Esther right now.  Let me give a little history on her.  She was born a Jewish exile named Haddasseh.  When her parents died, her uncle, Mordecai, adopted and raised her.  Esther was known to have great beauty, poise, and incredible character.  Because of these traits, she won the favor of King Xerxes and became the queen of Persia. As we will read more into the story, we will learn that God had a incredible plan for her life.

In chapter 4, Mordecai said to her,

“For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish.  And who knows but that you have come to royal position FOR SUCH A TIME AS THIS?”

No pressure, right? She would save her Jewish people.  And…get this…SHE IS ONLY ABOUT 14 YEARS OLD!

Yesterday, we were in chapter 5.  In this chapter, she is now about to step up to fulfill God’s plan. The chapter begins by saying that she has put on her royal robe and is standing in front of the inner court of the palace.  She is about to go in to talk to her husband, the king, and she was not summoned!  To approach the king without summons is against the law, punishable by death.  YET…

Here is this 14 year old girl standing gallantly in front of the king’s court to approach the king on her own accord, knowing that it could get her killed!  Let that sink in…

It doesn’t say how she is feeling.  However, we were discussing how we would feel and the fear that we would have.  Yet, the way it is stated, it appears that she is standing there with full confidence.

At that point, I asked the ladies to look back at the end of chapter 4. Before she made the decision to go, a few things happened:

  1. She gathered some of her closest girlfriends to discuss the situation at hand
  2. They all decided to fast and pray for 3 days prior to her approaching the king.
  3. Then, she spent those days in silence and praying!

I asked the ladies a few questions:

*How many of you, when you are having a problem or need guidance, go straight to all of your friends and talk and talk and talk about it? Almost all hands went up

*How many of you get stressed and worried, and often lose sleep over it? Almost all hands went up

*How many of you stop and pray first before doing those other two?  Very few of our hands went up.

This opened the door for us to see WHY this young girl of 14 years of age was so confident and strong as she approached the king. She was fearLESS because she had sat, prayed, and heard God’s voice.  She knew what He wanted her to do and knew that He would protect and guide her!  She knew that, in those 3 days prior, that He had prepared the path for His will!

That really helped ALL of us to remember…

In times of distress, or when God is asking you to do that REALLY BIG THING, stop…pray…and listen!  When we are talking and talking and talking (and, oh my word…I love to talk), we cannot hear His voice!  If we cannot hear His voice, we cannot know what His plan is. Sidenote: our closest girlfriends can be amazing prayer warriors and voices of reason for us also.  Get ya some of those girls!  They will fast and pray with you!

That’s good stuff right there!!!

 

 

 


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Let’s hear it for the boy!

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(First of all, the LYRICS of this song crack me up because they describe Mo to a T! For all of you that know him, am I right?  Keely, think “crocs”)

I want to take a few minutes to brag on my man! Besides God and his family, the above picture shows everything that he loves in this world…the ocean and these boys! If you have ever visited here, you have most likely met Golita, Dioni, Seba, and Gaba. Mo truly feels that God did not give him biological sons because He had these boys waiting for him here in La Represa. There isn’t a day that goes by that these boys do not come by our house…usually just in time for dinner!

So many times, Mo questions whether he has done enough here.  I know that there are times where he feels unappreciated or under valued for the work that he has done here.  I can say, with zero hesitation, that Mo has been an amazing servant for God here in La Represa. He heard God’s call on his life, gathered his family, and went. He gave up a lucrative business to follow God’s calling because he simply could not say “No”.

Mo has over 60 boys in the Surf Ministry.  I continue to be in awe of how God has used Mo and surfing to be able share God’s word! Many of the boys don’t even want to surf. However, through this program, he has been able to offer a safe place for the boys to hang out, share a meal, and share the Gospel.  Mo puts it best when he says, “We want to fill their bellies and their souls!” ALL of the boys have added so much to our lives. Mo has literally lost sleep over these boys.  He has had to have difficult conversations with them because, more important than ANYTHING, he wants to help grow God-loving, men of integrity! He has walked alongside them, loved them, and corrected them when they needed it.

So…Mo, yes…you have done a great job!  You have “ran the race that God put before you”…and you have done it with a servant heart.  You have been a father, leader, and great example to all of these boys.

Now, all of you know these things too!


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A Season of Rest

We are often asked, “When do you think that you will return to the states to live, or will you ever?”  My response is always, “When, or if, God closes this door”.

On January 29th, we will be celebrating our 4 year anniversary in the Dominican Republic. These past 4 years have been incredible and difficult and joyful and challenging.  We have learned so much about ourselves and God’s will and guidance in our lives.  He has broken us and molded us closer to His image…with much more molding needed!  We have learned how to truly “love our neighbor” and how to “lean into God for our strength”. We have learned how to selflessly serve others because God desires us to ‘serve one another’.

We have been hearing God speak to our hearts over the past 6 months.  If we are honest, it has been longer.  We didn’t want to hear what He had to say. However, we know all too well what happens when we don’t listen to God and His will for our lives. Now, we must be obedient to His will…

It is with sadness and understanding that we want to announce…

God is closing this door to our service in La Represa…

He has clearly stated that He will be sending us to a “season of rest and healing”.  We are tired.  We have served with all of the energy, passion, and love that God has filled inside of us over the past 4 years.  We are emotionally, physically, and spiritually tired and empty.  It is time to heal minor health issues that we have, and allow ourselves to be filled and fed emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

At this time, we do not know our next step.  He has not revealed that to us.  We have resigned our position as New Vision missionaries, and will fulfill our responsibilities with them in July.  We do not know if God wants us to stay in the Dominican Republic or return to the states.  We do not know if we will be returning to TN or to FL…or another state or country altogether.  We only know that we will have a ‘season of rest and healing’ for now.

Please join us in prayer as we finish our time here in La Represa.  This community is family to us.  This decision was not an easy one to make, and one that was made with much prayer and discernment (and tears).  To leave here will be one of the most difficult things we have done.  Our specific prayer requests for now are:

  1. We FINISH STRONG.  Pray that we serve well until the end.
  2. Pray for our girls.  They were 11 and 13 when we moved here.  This is the life that they know and the hearts that they love.  This community has embraced them as their own children, and my girls think of them as family, as well.
  3. Pray for our family’s hearts as we will be saying many ‘goodbyes’ over the next 7 months. In our own strength, we will not be able to do this.  In His, we can be comforted.
  4. Pray for discernment as more decisions will need to be made.  Pray that He makes it clear to us where we need to live. Pray that He provides a home, income, and direction.
  5. Pray for many fears that we have as we make this transition.  The unknown is always fearful.  However, sometimes the known can be even more fearful. Pray that we have TRUST IN HIM, as opposed to fear in our flesh.
  6. Pray for the missionary family and interns that will coming in behind us.  Pray that God brings them forward.  Pray as God begins to prepare their hearts.
  7. Pray for this wonderful, sweet community.  They are not accustomed to saying ‘goodbye’ to the ones that they love. They have already learned how hard that was by saying ‘goodbye’ to Keely, and they will be doing the same next week when Kristi leaves.  As we leave the field, Macy’s internship will be over in July, and she will be returning with us.

Thank you for all of your love and support over the past 4 years.  For those of you, that messaged us regularly, prayed for us, and supported us in ways too numerous to mention, THANK YOU!


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One Word 2017

It’s that time again- the New Year!  This means it is time to post my One Word for the year.  (I wrote about it–>Here and Here and Here if you would like to read more.  I posted a few links in one of the post to read more about the One Word concept.)  I know many of my friends ask God for One Word each year as well.

Last year, my word was Open…which seemed like a bizarre word at the time.  However, as God always does, He showed me throughout the year how He could use this word to grow me.  There are numerous ways and situations throughout this past year in which I have needed to be Open to Him or Open to others.  The ways in which He grew me and stretched me in this word were quite surprising.  By the end of 2016, I saw how He truly needed me to be Open to HIS will for my life.  I feel like all of 2016 was basic training for the question He would ask me by year’s end, which was “Do you really trust me and my plan for your life?”

The past few years, I have not truly known my One Word until almost February.  However, THIS YEAR…He gave me the word in November.  I felt Him saying…”You are gonna need a little more time with this word so I am giving you a few extra months to work on it!”  I can already see how He is teaching me, growing me, and challenging me beyond any other year.  I can see how this coming year is going to present me with ways in which I will need to practice what I am learning.

This year’s word is Love {Well}.

I say word because it feels like one thing to me, although it is more of a phrase.  Here’s why: It is easy to love those who love us and love those who are easy to love.

I feel God saying,

“Ok, so how are you going to love:

those who are difficult to love,

those who have hurt you,

and love when you are so far up in your junk

your heart is closed and locked up.

Tamara, how are you going to love MY children?

Now…how are you going to balance this

with boundaries and codependency and vulnerability

and all those other things which get love all twisted and turned?”

For some of you, this may not be a problem.  For me, it is.  Somewhere along the line, Love got all twisted and turned and confusing and scary and unsafe…and a whole lot of other things.  If it didn’t for you, that is wonderful. For the rest of us, you understand, right? You can still be a Christian and say, “These things can be hard for me, and I want to learn to do it better.”

Brené Brown said it best in this talk, Brené Brown on Boundaries, Empathy, and Compassion,

“The most compassionate people I have interviewed over the last 13 years were also absolutely the most boundaried.”

She goes on to say, as she became more boundaried,

“I am not as sweet as I used to be but I am far more loving.”

For me, all of this is how you truly learn to Love {Well}!

As I listened to her, I knew exactly what God was doing with this word in my life.  My journey has definitely already started.  I am praying (oh my goodness…I am praying!), researching, reading, learning, and seeking such wise counsel on this!  I am excited, scared, apprehensive, and so ready to see where this journey is taking me because…

in order to truly love His children WELL…

I have to learn this stuff…

so I can love myself well first.

I will be sharing throughout the year what God is revealing to me and ways in which He is stretching and growing me.

I may come out of 2017 bumped and bruised and a little rustled…

and, I hope above all else,

I am not as nice as I use to be to His children but that I am definitely more loving!

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What is your One Word for 2017 and how can you see God using it to grow you?